Life is like a see-saw, one day you are up, the next day down!!!

With the help of this article, I would like to help those people who think that bad times are forever and tend to lose their inner strength over a period of time. No doubt, bad times do shatter our long-cherished dreams besides having a severe impact on our standing and self-confidence. But does that mean that we start accepting defeat even before embarking on our personal goals?

Let me help you break the shackles of low esteem and bring forward the winner in you. We all strive for the best and feel unhappy when things do not go as we expected. My motto in life is different than many others; I believe that success though important is not the sole criteria to judge a person's abilities. Failures bring the best out of us and allow us to stand tall in the turmoil of devastating failures. You must have heard of the famous saying, “Failures are the stepping stones to success”. Since no one is born perfect, we need to be perfect in our actions at all times and it just does not matter if we fail at times while giving an attempt. A perfect individual is one who can tolerate the failures of his life to go strong.

The basic reason why most of us fail meeting our expectations is not because we lack the killer instinct but because we tend to over-estimate over capabilities. In addition to that, we allow the "silent" happy moments of the life to be overshadowed by bad times of life.

I am no exception to this rule but one thing that makes me distinct from others is my zeal to be happy amidst all the worries and tensions of my life. When I was a teenager, I was quite emotional and used to feel low while encountering family issues and facing frequent abuses. This continuing phenomenon had a severe impact on my self-esteem, confidence and social interactions. I used to spend sleepless nights at my bed thinking about an amicable solution but just could not find any.

After a period of almost eight months, I decided to change my reasons of life and followed a zero tolerance policy towards all besides making myself prepared for all the unforeseeable family events. Things did take a lot of time to settle down but like all dreams come true with efforts; this dream of mine finally saw a hope. This hope was identified by me at an earlier stage and I started managing my personal relationships in a better way. I started prioritizing things of my life and worked towards them, ignored things and followed a "forget all" attitude. My family members were initially astonished to see such a considerable change in my personality and soon followed in my footsteps. Today I am a winner in my own eyes and that’s what matters to me.

Several years have passed by and now our family is one of the happiest families in the world. Being a happy family does not just mean giving respect or doing small yet meaningful favors for the other members but means a family happy in its entirety with each member able to contribute to its growth and happy in individuality as well as entirety.

There is no point in being the apple of your family's eyes when deep down inside you do things unhappily. Always remember the fact that you, as an individual and as a family member, cannot make all the others around you happy and there is no point in making others happy by destroying your own inner peace. “God helps those who help themselves”. Do things what you want to do, do not worry about the outcome even before you start the journey. If you are happy, others around you will be happy and if they don't, why should you waste your precious time in making them happy. Remember the rule of happiness and love, a person who loves you wants to see you happy at any cost. Try to think seriously about yourself, give yourself the due attention you always deserved. This however does not mean that you need to disrespect others or ride on them. Find things that can help you to positively change your personality. If you can take your own decisions then you cannot blame others if you fail and similarly others cannot take credit if you win. Having this type of approach to life will surely bring happiness to you.

Find happiness in small things, there are a lot of these things around you. I can be happy when I see a child smiling, I feel happy when I can help others to build their careers. The ways may be different but the goal is the same, inner happiness.

The situations in our lives may be different but no one is born happy or sad, lucky or unlucky. There is no point in praising or cursing the destiny for things of our lives. Start having belief in your abilities, perform at your best and the world will be a different platform for you to display your real metal.

I really wish that my words can help you to lead a better life and be a better individual. If I am unable to do this for me, my purpose of writing this article is simply defeated but I really hope that you will not disappoint me by just reading this article by having a glance on it or thinking it as a waste bunch of words.